Ibimenyetso 10 byakwereka ko umukobwa agukunda byimazeyo

Mu buzima bwa buri munsi, kenshi usanga abasore bibaza bati: “Ese umukobwa unkunda koko cyangwa arimo kumbeshya?” Rimwe na rimwe amagambo ntabwo ahagije, ahubwo ibikorwa n’imyitwarire nibyo bigaragaza ukuri ku byo umuntu yumva mu mutima. Dore rero ibimenyetso 10 bikomeye byakwereka ko umukobwa agukunda by’ukuri, atari ibintu byo gukina cyangwa amayeri.

1. Arakumva kandi akaguha umwanya

Umukobwa ugukunda byimazeyo ahora yifuza kukumva. Ntazagutererana igihe uvuga cyangwa ngo yirirwe akurangaza n’ibindi. Azakubaza amakuru yawe, ategereze ibisubizo byawe kandi yerekane ko ibyo uvuga bimushishikaje.

2. Akwereka ko akwitayeho mu bintu bito

Niba akwibukira ibintu bito nk’igihe wavuze ko ukunda icyayi aho ikawa, cyangwa akagutungura ku isabukuru yawe, menya ko hari byinshi biri mu mutima we. Urukundo nyakuri rugaragarira mu bintu bito bidakorwa ku gahato.

3. Akubwira ukuri n’iyo kumubabaje

Umukobwa ugukunda by’ukuri ntabwo akubeshya ngo akwemerere buri kimwe. Ahubwo aravuga ukuri, kuko aba ashaka ko mubana mubwizanye n’ukuri. Iyo akubwiye ikintu ku mugaragaro, menya ko akuraje ishyaka.

4. Akubona nk’inshuti ye magara

Ataba akubonamo umusore gusa, ahubwo akubona nk’uwo yizera, uwo asangira nawe ibibazo n’ibyishimo. Iyo umukobwa atangiye kukubwira ibanga rye cyangwa akagusangiza iby’umuryango we, ni ikimenyetso gikomeye cy’urukundo rufite imizi.

5. Agera kure ngo agufashe

Niba umukobwa yiteguye kugufasha n’iyo bimutwaye igihe, imbaraga cyangwa amafaranga, uwo aba ari ugukunda byimazeyo. Urukundo nyarwo rugaragarira mu bikorwa byo kwitanga.

6. Ashima ibyo ukora kandi akagushyigikira

Umukobwa ugukunda azajya aguha imbaraga, akakubwira ko ashima ibyo ukora, ndetse akakurangira uburyo wabikora neza kurushaho. Ntaba arimo kugusebya cyangwa kuguca intege.

7. Akwishimira kandi akagutonesha

Iyo muri kumwe, uba ubona isura ye itoshye, akaseka by’ukuri, kandi akagukoraho kenshi mu buryo bw’urukundo. Umubiri n’imyitwarire ye byose biba byerekana ko akwishimiye.

8. Akubaza ibijyanye n’ejo hazaza

Umukobwa ugukunda atangira kukubaza ibintu nk’ibi: “Utekereza uzaba uri hehe mu myaka itanu?” cyangwa “Waba wifuza kugira abana bangahe?” Ibi biba ari uburyo bwo kwerekana ko yifuza ko ejo hazaza habarizwamo nawe.

9. Arakwihanganira kandi akagusaba imbabazi

Nta rukundo rutagira amakimbirane, ariko umukobwa ugukunda by’ukuri ntazaguhunga ngo yirengagize ikibazo. Azemera amakosa ye, agusabe imbabazi, kandi yiteguye gukosora.

10. Akurengera n’imbere y’abandi

Iyo abandi bagututse cyangwa bagukwena, azajya akurengera cyangwa akagaragaza ko akwubaha. Urukundo nyarwo rugira ishema, kandi umuntu ugukunda ntabwo yakwihanganira kubona abandi bagusuzuguye.

Umusozo

Urukundo nyakuri ntirugaragarira mu magambo gusa, ahubwo rugaragarira mu bikorwa bihoraho. Niba umukobwa akwereka ibi bimenyetso uko biri hejuru, ntuzagire amakenga — uwo ni umuntu ukwifuriza ibyiza, kandi akwifitemo byimazeyo.